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Supporting feminist, women’s rights and gender justice movements to thrive, to be a driving force in challenging systems of oppression, and to co-create feminist realities.
Building Feminist Economies is about creating a world with clean air to breath and water to drink, with meaningful labour and care for ourselves and our communities, where we can all enjoy our economic, sexual and political autonomy.
In the world we live in today, the economy continues to rely on women’s unpaid and undervalued care work for the profit of others. The pursuit of “growth” only expands extractivism - a model of development based on massive extraction and exploitation of natural resources that keeps destroying people and planet while concentrating wealth in the hands of global elites. Meanwhile, access to healthcare, education, a decent wage and social security is becoming a privilege to few. This economic model sits upon white supremacy, colonialism and patriarchy.
Adopting solely a “women’s economic empowerment approach” is merely to integrate women deeper into this system. It may be a temporary means of survival. We need to plant the seeds to make another world possible while we tear down the walls of the existing one.
We believe in the ability of feminist movements to work for change with broad alliances across social movements. By amplifying feminist proposals and visions, we aim to build new paradigms of just economies.
Our approach must be interconnected and intersectional, because sexual and bodily autonomy will not be possible until each and every one of us enjoys economic rights and independence. We aim to work with those who resist and counter the global rise of the conservative right and religious fundamentalisms as no just economy is possible until we shake the foundations of the current system.
Our Actions
Our work challenges the system from within and exposes its fundamental injustices:
Advance feminist agendas: We counter corporate power and impunity for human rights abuses by working with allies to ensure that we put forward feminist, women’s rights and gender justice perspectives in policy spaces. For example, learn more about our work on the future international legally binding instrument on “transnational corporations and other business enterprises with respect to human rights” at the United Nations Human Rights Council.
Mobilize solidarity actions: We work to strengthen the links between feminist and tax justice movements, including reclaiming the public resources lost through illicit financial flows (IFFs) to ensure social and gender justice.
Build knowledge: We provide women human rights defenders (WHRDs) with strategic information vital to challenge corporate power and extractivism. We will contribute to build the knowledge about local and global financing and investment mechanisms fuelling extractivism.
Create and amplify alternatives: We engage and mobilize our members and movements in visioning feminist economies and sharing feminist knowledges, practices and agendas for economic justice.
“The corporate revolution will collapse if we refuse to buy what they are selling – their ideas, their version of history, their wars, their weapons, their notion of inevitability. Another world is not only possible, she is on her way. On a quiet day, I can hear her breathing”.
In September 2016, the 13th AWID international Forum brought together in Brazil over 1800 feminists and women’s rights advocates in a spirit of resistance and resilience.
This section highlights the gains, learnings and resources that came out of our rich conversations. We invite you to explore, share and comment!
What has happened since 2016?
One of the key takeaways from the 2016 Forum was the need to broaden and deepen our cross-movement work to address rising fascisms, fundamentalisms, corporate greed and climate change.
With this in mind, we have been working with multiple allies to grow these seeds of resistance:
Movements can also benefit from new methodologies on Visioning Feminist Futures (Coming up soon!)
And through our next strategic plan and Forum process, we are committed to keep developing ideas and deepen the learnings ignited at the 2016 Forum.
What happens now?
The world is a much different place than it was a year ago, and it will continue to change.
The next AWID Forum will take place in the Asia Pacific region (exact location and dates to be announced in 2018).
We look forward to you joining us!
About the AWID Forum
AWID Forums started in 1983, in Washington DC. Since then, the event has grown to become many things to many peoples: an iterative process of sharpening our analyses, vision and actions; a watershed moment that reinvigorates participants’ feminisms and energizes their organizing; and a political home for women human rights defenders to find sanctuary and solidarity.
Rama es una joven feminista, investigadora y escritora senegalesa. Tenía poco más de 20 años cuando escribió su primera novela, La dernière lettre, publicada por Présence Africaine en 2008.Un año después fue una de las 25 jóvenes africanas con visión, valentía y compromiso extraordinarios para liderar cambios en sus comunidades que recibieron la beca MILEAD, otorgada por la Moremi Initiative for Women's Leadership in Africa [Iniciativa Moremi para el Liderazgo de las Mujeres en África].
"Convertirse en quien una es, plenamente y sin pedir disculpas, es un logro difícil pero el más importante de todos. He aprendido, en forma metódica, a desaprender y reaprender, a deconstruir y reconstruir todo lo que me han enseñado acerca de cómo se deben mover las mujeres en la sociedad..."
Tras recibir la beca en Gobernanza y Desarrollo 2015 de la Ibrahim Foundation, Rama está a punto de iniciar sus estudios de doctorado en la Escuela de Estudios Orientales y Africanos (SOAS) de la Universidad de Londres. Ya tiene una Licenciatura en Desarrollo Internacional con especialización en Desarrollo Económico Africano y Género, así como una Maestría en Cooperación Internacional y Desarrollo por el Instituto de Estudios Políticos de Burdeos, Francia.
"A fin de llegar a ser quien verdaderamente soy, he tenido que aprender que cuidarme y alcanzar mis sueños era más importante que las etiquetas sociales que ni siquiera me definen..."
En 2013, Rama contribuyó a un libro colectivo de la Network of Young African Researchers on Democracy and Development in Africa [Red de Jóvenes Investigadoras/es Africanas/os sobre la Democracia y el Desarrollo en África] y también ha sido columnista de Nouvel Horizon Senegal.
"Para mí, ser feminista es aceptar que tendré que cuestionar todo lo socialmente establecido para definir quién debo ser y qué ‘debo querer’, porque ‘deber’ y ‘querer’ son términos antitéticos. Cuando se libera del ‘deber’ o del ‘no deber’, el ‘querer’ se vuelve poderoso. Sé tú misma. Y punto."
Féministe avec la vision, le courage et l’engagement
Rama est une jeune chercheuse et écrivaine féministe sénégalaise. Sa première nouvelle, La dernière lettre, a été publiée dans Présence Africaine en 2008, alors qu’elle était âgée d’une vingtaine d’années.
Un an plus tard, elle a été sélectionnée pour - participer à l’Initiative Moremi pour le leadership des femmes en Afrique, MILEAD (site en anglais). La bourse d’études est décernée à 25 jeunes femmes africaines avec la vision, le courage et l’engagement nécessaires pour inspirer et mener des changements dans leurs communautés.
"Devenir soi-même et s’assumer pleinement n’est pas simple, mais c’est la plus importante de toutes les réussites. J’ai méthodiquement appris à désapprendre et réapprendre, à déconstruire et reconstruire tout ce qu’on m’avait appris sur la manière dont les femmes doivent se comporter en société..."
Munie de la bourse Ibrahim Governance and Development 2015, Rama est sur le point de commencer ses études doctorales en développement à l’École des études orientales et africaines de l’Université de Londres. Elle est titulaire d’une maîtrise en développement international, spécialisée en développement économique africain et en questions de genre, et d’un Master en coopération internationale et en développement de l’IEP de Bordeaux, en France.
"Pour réaliser mon moi véritable, j’ai appris que prendre soin de moi et réaliser mes rêves était plus important que toutes ces étiquettes que la société nous colle et qui ne me définissent même pas..."
En 2013, Rama a participé à un ouvrage collectif du Réseau des jeunes chercheurs-euses africain-ne-s sur la démocratie et le développement en Afrique et a également été chroniqueuse pour Nouvel Horizon Sénégal.
"Pour moi, être féministe c’est accepter de questionner tout ce qui est établi par la société pour définir ce que je devrais être, ce que je 'devrais vouloir', car devoir et vouloir sont antinomiques. Le verbe vouloir est puissant lorsqu’il est libéré du 'devrait' ou 'ne devrait pas'. Soyez vous-mêmes, un point c’est tout. "
Rama is a young Senegalese feminist, researcher and writer. In her early twenties, she wrote her first novel La dernière lettre, published by Présence Africaine in 2008. A year later she was selected as a MILEAD fellow of the Moremi initiative for Women’s Leadership in Africa. The fellowship is awarded to 25 young African women with extraordinary vision, courage and commitment to lead change in their communities.
"Becoming one's full and unapologetic self is a difficult but the most important of all achievements. I have methodically learned to un-learn and re-learn, to de-construct and re-construct all that I have been taught about how women should socialise..."
As the 2015 Ibrahim Governance and Development PhD scholar, Rama is about to begin her doctoral studies at the School of Oriental and African Studies, University of London. She already holds an MSc in International Development specializing in African Economic Development and Gender and a Masters’ degree in International Cooperation and Development from the Bordeaux Institute of Political Studies, France.
"To become my true self, I have learned that my self-care and achievement of my dreams were more important than societal labels that do not even define me..."
In 2013, Rama contributed to a collective book by the Network of young African Researchers on Democracy and Development in Africa and has also been a columnist for Nouvel Horizon Senegal.
"To me being a feminist is accepting that I will have to question everything established by society to define who I should be or what I ‘should want’ because ‘should and want’ are antithetical. Wanting is powerful when liberated from the ‘should’ or ‘should not’. Be You. Period."
Obumu Habwekigendererwa (Uni-e-s pour une cause) poursuit l’héritage de Koogere
L’histoire de Koogere
L’Empire Kitara englobait autrefois certaines parties actuelles de l’est de l’Ouganda, certaines régions du nord de la Tanzanie et de l’est de la République démocratique du Congo. Dans cet empire, on raconte qu’une femme nommée Koogere régna sur la chefferie de Busongara. On dit que c’était une cheffe d’une exceptionnelle sagesse, une dirigeante et entrepreneure de talent qui, entre autres réussites, a rendu ses communautés prospères socialement et économiquement. La tradition orale Koogere raconte l’histoire du leadership de Koogere, tout en transmettant son héritage à la communauté, de génération en génération.
« Busongora bwa Koogere mbere ikamwa niboroga, Amagita gatera amaato, amata geser’ente » (Busongora de Koogere, la terre riche en bétail et en produits laitiers)
L’héritage actuel de Koogere
Le Koogere Women Empowerment Programme (Programme d’autonomisation des femmes Koogere, site en anglais) de Engabu Za Tooro - la Plateforme des jeunes de Tooro pour l’action, EZT- a été mis en place à partir de cette tradition orale et s’en inspire. Membre de l’AWID depuis le début de 2015, EZT est une organisation autochtone d’Ouganda fondée en 1999 qui travaille auprès de communautés dans la partie occidentale du pays. EZT a pour objectif de renforcer les capacités de ces communautés faisant usage de pratiques culturelles pour promouvoir l’égalité de genre, les droits des femmes autochtones et l’autonomie communautaire. Leurs principales activités visent à promouvoir la mobilisation des femmes des communautés locales et le renforcement de leur leadership, à les encourager à produire et distribuer ces produits dans les secteurs du commerce agroalimentaire et des entreprises culturelles. L’organisation oeuvre également pour mettre un terme à la violence intrafamiliale et pour la promotion des droits économiques des femmes.
Obumu Habwekigendererwa [United for the cause] continues the legacy of Koogere
The story of Koogere
The Kitara Empire once encompassed present-day parts of eastern Uganda, some areas of northern Tanzania and of eastern Democratic Republic of Congo. In this Empire, it is told, a woman named Koogere reigned over the Busongara Chiefdom. It is said that she was an exceptionally wise chief, great leader and entrepreneur who, among other achievements, brought socio-economic prosperity to her communities. The Koogere oral tradition tells the story of Koogere’s leadership, carrying her legacy through generations of the community.
“Busongora bwa Koogere mbere ikamwa niboroga, Amagita gatera amaato, amata geser’ente” (Busongora of Koogere the land of plenty of cattle and abundant dairy products).
Koogere’s Legacy Today
The Koogere Women Empowerment Programme of Engabu Za Tooro (Tooro Youth Platform for Action, EZT) is built around and inspired by this oral tradition. EZT, an AWID member since early 2015, is an indigenous Ugandan organisation founded in 1999 and working with communities in western Uganda. EZT works to strengthen the capacity of these communities, using cultural practices to promote gender equality, the rights of indigenous women and community self-reliance. Their main activities aim to promote grassroots women’s mobilization and leadership; encourage women’s production and marketing in agro-business and cultural enterprises; end domestic violence and promote women’s economic rights.
Obumu Habwekigendererwa [Unidad con propósito] continúa el legado de Koogere
La historia de Koogere
El imperio Kitara alguna vez se extendió por el oriente de Uganda, el norte de Tanzanía y el oriente de la República Democrática del Congo. Se cuenta que en este imperio una mujer llamada Koogere reinó sobre toda la zona de influencia de los jefes Busongara. Se dice que ella fue una jefa excepcional por su sabiduría, una gran líder y emprendedora que, entre otros logros, llevó la prosperidad económica a sus comunidades. La tradición oral Koogere cuenta la historia de su liderazgo, transmitiendo su legado de una generación a otra en esta comunidad.
“Busongora bwa Koogere mbere ikamwa niboroga, Amagita gatera amaato, amata geser’ente” [Busongara de Koogere, la tierra del ganado y los productos lácteos abundantes]
El legado de Koogere en la actualidad
El Koogere Women Empowerment Programme [Programa de empoderamiento para mujeres Koogere] de la Engabu Za Tooro [Plataforma de Acción Juvenil Tooro, EZT] se inspira en esta tradición oral y se desarrolla a partir de ella. EZT, afiliada a AWID desde comienzos de 2015, es una organización indígena ugandesa creada en 1999 que trabaja con comunidades de Uganda occidental. EZT se dedica a fortalecer las capacidades de estas comunidades, utilizando prácticas culturales para promover la igualdad de género, los derechos de las mujeres indígenas y la autosuficiencia comunitaria. Sus principales actividades están destinadas a promover la movilización y el liderazgo de las mujeres de sectores populares; alentar la producción y comercialización agrícola y cultural por parte de las mujeres, poner fin a la violencia doméstica y promover los derechos económicos de las mujeres.
Often known as a ‘poet of peace and friendship’, Caroline Nazareno-Gabis (an AWID member), a.k.a. Ceri Naz is a native of Pangsinan, Philippines, currently living and working in Vancouver, Canada. She is an award-winning poet, editor, journalist, public speaker, linguist, educator, peace and women’s rights advocate.
Caroline has won numerous international prizes for her work, including the The Frang Bardhi Literary Prize 2014 in Albania, the sair-gazeteci (Poet-Journalist Award) during the 34th KIBATEK International Festival of Literature and Arts in Turkey and the World Poetry Empowered Poet 2013 in Canada. She was also a featured poet at Vancouver Word On The Street and chosen as the World Poetry International Director for the Philippines by the World Poetry Canada and International.
“i am the greatest me
for i have accepted the whole,
the real me…”
Caroline’s poetry, children’s and feature stories have been published in various book anthologies and magazines worldwide. Currently, she writes for the Philippine Canadian Inquirer, the Songsoptok International Online Magazine and the e-journal Our Poetry Archive.
Beyond her literary work, Caroline has created the The Ceri Naz Literary Award through which she supports journalism students at the Pangasinan State University as well as emerging writers, poets and artists in the Philippines.
“…i am
fragile
but had put up
the broken pieces
to streams of strength and breadth…”
A Caroline Nazareno-Gabis (afiliada de AWID), a la que llaman Ceri Naz, se la conoce como ‘poeta de la paz y la amistad’. Nacida en Pangsinan, Filipinas, actualmente vive y trabaja en Vancouver, Canadá. Ha recibido múltiples distinciones como poeta, editora, periodista, conferenciante, lingüista, educadora y defensora de la paz y los derechos de las mujeres.
Caroline ha ganado numerosos premios por su obra, incluyendo el premio de literatura Frang Bardhi 2014 de Albania, el premio sair-gazeteci (Premio Periodista Poeta- Poet Journalist Award ) durante la 34º edición del Festival Internacional KIBATEK de Literatura y Arte de Turquía y el Premio Mundial de Poesía y Empoderamiento (World Poetry Empowered Poet ) 2013 de Canadá. También fue poeta destacada en el festival nacional de libros y revistas de Vancouver, Word On The Street (La Palabra en la Calle), y fue elegida como Directora Internacional de Poesía Mundial para Filipinas por la organización World Poetry Canada and International.
“soy la mejor yo
porque he aceptado todo
mi yo real...”
La poesía de Caroline, sus historias para niñas y niños y algunos de sus artículos destacados se han publicado en varias antologías de libros y revistas de todo el mundo. Actualmente escribe para Philippine Canadian Inquirer, la Songsoptok International Online Magazine (revista en línea) y la revista electrónica Our Poetry Archive.
Además de su obra literaria, Caroline ha creado el “Premio de Literatura Ceri Naz”, a través del cual brinda apoyo a estudiantes de periodismo de la Universidad Estatal de Pangasinan y a escritoras y escritores, poetas y artistas emergentes de Filipinas.
“…soy
frágil
pero de mis pedazos
hice
un torrente de fuerza y respiración…”
Souvent décrite comme une « poète de la paix et de l’amitié », Caroline Nazareno-Gabis (membre de l'AWID), plus connue sous le pseudonyme de Ceri Naz, est originaire de la province de Pangasinan, aux Philippines. Poète primée, éditrice, journaliste, conférencière, linguiste, éducatrice et militante pour la paix et les droits des femmes, Caroline vit et travaille actuellement à Vancouver, au Canada.
L’œuvre de Caroline a été récompensée par de nombreux prix internationaux. Elle a notamment remporté le prix littéraire Frang Bardhi 2014 en Albanie, le prix Sair-gazeteci (qui récompense les poètes-journalistes) du 34ème KIBATEK – le Festival international de littérature et d’arts qui a lieu en Turquie – et le prix World Poetry Empowered Poet 2013 au Canada. Elle a été invitée à participer au festival Word On The Street de Vancouver (site en anglais) et nommée directrice du World Poetry International pour les Philippines par la fondation World Poetry Canada and International.
« …je suis mon meilleur moi
car j’ai accepté mon moi entier,
mon moi véritable… »
La poésie de Caroline, ses histoires pour enfants et ses reportages ont été publiés dans différents livres, anthologies et magazines, et ce dans le monde entier. Elle collabore actuellement avec le Philippine Canadian Inquirer (site en anglais), le Songsoptok International Online Magazine et le journal en ligne Our Poetry Archive.
Outre son œuvre littéraire, Caroline a créé le prix littéraire Ceri Naz pour soutenir les étudiant-e-s en journalisme de l’Université d’État du Pangasinan ainsi que les écrivain-e-s, poètes et artistes prometteur-se-s des Philippines.
« …je suis fragile mais j’ai reconstitué les fragments brisés en des fleuves larges et puissants… »
We strive to make the AWID Forum a truly global gathering with participation from a diverse array of movements, regions and generations. To this end, AWID mobilizes resources for a limited Access Fund (AF) to assist some participants with the costs of attending the Forum.
The 14th AWID International Forum will take place 11-14 January 2021, in Taipei, Taiwan.
How will the Access Fund be allocated?
For this AWID Forum, there will be no application process.
Access Fund grants will be allocated by invitation only to:
Two persons per activity selected for the Forum program (decided by those organizations, groups or individuals organizing the activity)
Participants who identify as part of Priority Forum Constituencies (PFCs) recommended by the organizations, networks and groups who are co-creating the Forum with AWID.
PFCs are those which we consider would strengthen our collective power as movements, are not centered in mainstream feminist movements, and whose Feminist Realities we would like to honor, celebrate and visibilize:
- Black feminists
- Indigenous feminists
- Trans, gender non-conforming and intersex feminists
- Feminists with disabilities
- Feminist sex workers and informal workers, including migrant workers
- Feminists affected by migration
- Women affected by drug policy
- Feminists from the Forum regions (with a focus on the Pacific and mainland China)
In addition, AWID will fund approximately 100 participants from the Forum’s location. Forum Committee Members (Content and Methodology, Access and Host) as well as those in the Artists Working Group [link] are also granted Access Fund support.
What does the Access Fund cover?
For selected participants, the Access Fund will cover the cost of their:
Flight
Accommodation
Visa
Local transportation in Taipei
Travel medical insurance
The Access Fund will NOT cover their:
Forum registration fee
Transportation to and from the airport in their city of departure
Other incidental costs
Apart from the Access Fund, how can I fund my participation at the Forum?
We have listed other ideas on how to fund your participation at the AWID Forum on the Funding Ideas page.
A complex and evolving network of anti-rights actors is exerting increasing influence in international spaces as well as domestic politics. Often backed by obscure funding, these actors build tactic alliances across issues, regions, and faiths to increase their impact.
We are witnessing fascist and fundamentalist actors that, while nationalist in their discourse, are completely transnational in their ideological underpinnings, political alliances, and networks of financing. In some cases these groups are backed by obscure funding flows, linked with big business, or far-right political parties. However, they also create strategic alliances, including, in some cases, with segments of the feminist and women’s rights movements, and distance themselves from more outwardly extreme elements to appear more legitimate. Anti-rights actors are also spreading and replicating their brand of anti-rights organizing - be that campaigning and lobbying or strategic litigation - across the globe.
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CitizenGo
Alliance Defending Freedom (ADF)
Funding of Anti-rights Actors
The Links Between Anti-trans Feminists and Christian Fundamentalists
Exercise: Let’s Map the Landscape
Movement Resistance Story: Catolicadas, a Powerful Communication Tool to Promote Gender Equality and Sexual and Reproductive Rights
Yannia Sofía Garzón Valencia I am a Black woman and a community weaver. I live in Santander de Quilichao in Cauca, Colombia. I am interested in the creative processes that organize sustainable collective life. I like exchanging thoughts and cooking, investigating and analyzing, planting seeds and learning from plants, reading and playing. I am currently coordinating the observatory of gender-based violence against afro-descendant communities in Colombia (@VigiaAfro).
The three of us were “sharing” the afternoon in a neighborhood south of Bogota.
There was an unusually large green playing area and we sat on little wooden stools under an elderberry tree. We were finally experiencing that other form of love – that pleasure of being together and listening to each other. For me, these kinds of chats are among the expressions of love that life had only recently allowed me to enjoy. I had not known this other form of love – the kinds found outside workshops, activist spaces, classrooms, or workplaces – to be possible. Yet we three friends spent the afternoon amongst ourselves and we did not pretend to be blind to the color of our respective skins. Rather, it was a lived factor that allowed us to intimately discuss the similarities and differences in our childhood and youthful experiences.
Those chats were unrelated to any upcoming activities of the Black movement in Colombia, but they still nourish me and acquire new meanings. Our closeness was woven through coming together, recognizing each other, and identifying the uniqueness of our liberations. And by realizing there is not just one but many paths to liberation – those paths we inhabited every time we said “no” and rebelled. Far from feeling discomfort, we met in an authenticity made of weakness and strength, one which brought us closer instead of separating us.
Our purpose on that beautiful afternoon was to just be – to have an awareness of simply being amongst ourselves. We walked through our pasts so that the memories that stayed with us were those we decided to keep as ours, and not those that fear let through and found a place for. We remembered exact fragments of TV shows, and sang songs written by artists who had taught us about loving well, hating well, cursing like the worst villain, and suffering like the best leading lady.
We told each other about our school pranks, and what remained in our subconscious after being exposed to the many ways the media repeats the same thing – after the teachers and nuns at school overexposed us to stories so that we would identify with and appropriate Cinderella’s aspirations for our own lives. This would set the tone for the rest of our story: the drama of the impoverished and diminished girl who is yet to achieve her full value through an act that redeems her condition. And that act can only be brought about by the gaze of a male who, at the very least, is white, hence deserving of what is between our thighs – his “main aspiration” – and the “perfect realization of our dreams,” which we are told should then be our main aspiration.
There were three of us there that afternoon. Each had been brought up in a different part of the country, but it was fascinating that we could all still quote fragments and situations from songs and soap operas that often – as we realized by getting to know each other – shared codes or symbols that were replicated, with a few variations, in our homes, in our first relationships, and in our neighborhoods and schools. Brought up by “dramas” (is that what that very successful genre is called?) where the more you suffer, the more you deserve, the issue of “how and in which situations it is acceptable and legitimate to suffer” becomes an important mandate on how the person who suffers should be seen, what they should do, and whom they should be. Some of us managed to liberate ourselves and “learn” a definition of love that could only be learnt in adulthood, shattering illusions, and accepting natural sin. And becoming aware of the industrial production of a virgin, which we may refuse to look like as she has no place in our understanding, and the disappointment this alienation brings.
After singing, we reviewed our early sexual explorations. I never thought that most people experienced them before the age of nine and that even in adulthood, those experiences, those memories, remain a heavy burden. Even today, in thousands of places, millions of girls and boys see their innocence curtailed by lack of trust and the ignorance we present them with when they try to explore their bodies. Blaming curiosity is a most efficient control mechanism. We went back to the brief conversations we had when we changed the history of our lives from cursed Black beings to a perspective that rebirthed us. We remembered how many of our aunts and female cousins left their homes, their core, their roots, to seek a future outside, elsewhere.
The future comes with a price: it demands that those relationships that marked our childhood are reshaped and confined to oblivion. They are our foundations, but they are not relevant if we want to move ahead. For us, advancing was to learn by heart what we do to ourselves with the opportunities we find elsewhere. That it is elsewhere, and not within us, that opportunities lie, that we are available, that we need to be outside. However, for many of our aunts and female cousins, the few opportunities to enroll and stay in an evening class or take a sabbatical from domestic work were paid for by becoming the first sexual experience of relatives living in the future. A future for which others before them had also paid for, and whose price they had already forgotten. The demand for this payment arrived with the same inevitability as a public utility service bill. We will not take up that legacy.
In Colombia and Latin America, there was an etiquette manual called La urbanidad de Carreño (Carreño’s Etiquette Manual). It was mandatory reading until the 90s in both public and private schools. The manual conditioned how bodies were perceived and my mother, taken in and brought up by Carmelite nuns, knew it by heart. The first time I read it I had to stop more than once to rub my stomach, which hurt from laughing so much. It has ridiculous instructions such as: take a shower with your eyes closed and turn off the lights to wear your nightclothes. Different chapters address how one is to behave at home, in the street, and during a dinner or lunch party – in short, the norms of good taste and etiquette. The ethical core of good citizens was the urbanity that allowed one to distance oneself from rural life. The same manual indicated that shouting a greeting to an acquaintance on the other side of the street was indecorous; good manners dictate that you must cross the street. By the same token, men must remove their coats and place them over puddles of water if accompanying a woman whose shoes should not get wet. I thought about greeting someone across a river, and how it is so hot where we live that we don’t require coats.
"She learned that to care for her belly, she needed to keep her tissues warm, to avoid the cold that comes through the soft spot on the top of the head, through the feet, the ears, so it would not hurt particularly at moontime. For that, you need to be careful about what you eat and what you don’t eat, how you dress and how you walk, as all that has to do with girls’ health. The woman elder says that, from her devoted grandfather, she learnt that cramps became more common when houses no longer had floors made of mud and/or wood. When concrete and tiles came, when the material making up the house allowed the cold to come in through the feet, tension also grew in the belly tissue."
The manual’s author, Mr. Carreño is the opposite of the grandfather of a woman elder born in Turbo. She told me once that her grandfather was a wise man, that he told her about birthing and how to take care of her body. She learned that to care for her belly, she needed to keep her tissues warm, to avoid the cold that comes through the soft spot on the top of the head, through the feet, the ears, so it would not hurt, particularly at moontime. For that, you need to be careful about what you eat, how you dress, and how you walk, as all that has to do with a girl’s health. The woman elder said that, from her devoted grandfather, she learnt that cramps became more common when houses no longer had floors made of mud and/or wood. When concrete and tiles came, when the material making up the house allowed the cold to come in through the feet, tensions in the belly tissue also grew.
Surprised again. Such a distance between Don Carreño and the wise grandfather in terms of being aware of life – as distant as the mandates of proper behavior that stifle your impulses and senses, even the most common sense that values health. At that moment, I was able to understand one of the many ways that concrete obstructs the earth’s breathing, and our own as part of her. I had not realized there was, and still is, the architecture and materials for taking care of our bodies. In Colombia, as well as in other countries, the materials used to make houses are taken as indicators of multidimensional poverty. A house built with concrete moves the home away from being considered poor. This is just one disappointing example of how progress pushes us to abandon the relationship between our environment and our body. Good taste and urbanity pushes us outside: to move forward, they lie, you have to go out there.
It bothered us to realize that neither our mothers nor fathers had spoken to us about menstruation, except when the brown stain had already smeared our knickers. They failed to preserve us from the shame that was supposed to be a natural feeling once menstruation had come. Along with menstruation came the belly cramps often endured in silence, because there was work to be done; some cramps were due to cysts, hematomas, or fibroids that killed the grandmothers who had discovered and forgotten the healing treatments, and then were forgotten themselves. That our mothers and fathers’ breaths turned colder and colder, but the Outside froze familiarity and, instead of warming our bellies, passed judgment with advice similar to warnings of the only thing men care about. This was applied to all men – legitimizing the plundering role of the phallus, as if its only option was to take what we have between our legs. The multiple versions of that truth were replaced by an unmovable and deeply-set naturalization: telling all women that we must preserve ourselves for one of them, for the one that will first introduce his penis inside us, for the one that will give us something in exchange, and that we are women only because we aspire to and let him put it inside us. As a girl I explored little penises and clitorises and, in between games among girls, the question was whispered: whose turn is it to play man and whose turn is it to play woman? And the answer: the beginnings of little orgasms, regardless of with whom. I guess the same must happen among male bodies.
The experiences and explorations of our aunts, female cousins, and acquaintances focused on the body and its nudity as taboo. They avoided expressing and naming it, to the point of covering it up, assigning new names to its excreting, expelling, procreating, and, just for us women, its receiving functions. Once I heard a woman elder in a workshop say that when she was living with her grandmother, her memory was of this old woman sleeping with one eye open, the other closed, and a rifle by the mattress. The softest night sound was enough for her to grab the rifle and aim. This is a common situation in the Colombian Pacific, where some harmful behaviors are normalized. Married and single men who like a young woman would enter her room at night – we call it gateada. It was a risk: if those with authority in the home realized what was happening, abuse or not, the man could be hurt or even killed.
This practice of taking the law into one’s own hands has failed to put an end to gateadas, even today. In that same workshop – as I kept telling my sisters – other participants said that neither they nor their mothers would leave their daughters alone with their fathers at bath time, unless the girls were wearing underwear. I remembered then my father’s voice saying, when I was seven, your mother never let me bathe you. After sharing this, another woman responded that, in contrast, her father would give her a bath naked in the courtyard of her childhood home until she turned seven, and then her eldest brother did it until she turned nine. She never felt anything strange in the way they looked at her; for them, it was just another task in caring for the most spoiled child in the home. She remembered being seen for what she was: a daughter child, a sister child, who did not like the water.
Once again childhoods, yesterday and today. We were surprised by that story, and it comforted us. Even I had seen things being different elsewhere; my daughter’s father bathed her in the tub until she was almost two. Even before turning two, he would give her a few soft slaps upwards on her bum, to make it bigger, as he said. Here, we could also speak of other dimensions of how we construct our bodies, but that is a different story. For me, it was one care task, among many, that we agreed to divide between ourselves before the baby was born. And the decision to not see every man as a lurking rapist does not mean they are not rapists, but instead that they can stop being so. There are also men and male bodies that have been brought up to never be rapists.
This is still happening. It happened to a friend of ours and to my own daughter. I thought: how can it be that some women are coupled with men they cannot trust to care for their daughters? I am sure that my mum loved my dad. And even though we seldom speak about the woman she was before becoming my mum, I know her experiences of abuse cannot be compared to the brutality and over-tolerance of those of today. But that is still a decision many women in many places make, and that leads to other questions. How often, how repeated were cases of abuse in our extended families to make women openly, or in indiscernible ways, forbid their partners from bathing their daughters? Is it related to the media overexposure we are subject to almost from birth? What makes family ties blur and turn into just bodily-satisfaction exchanges? Is it the proximity to urban values that cares so much about the right shapes of female bodies as objects of desire, and pushes male bodies to behave like owners and conquerors, fulfilling the mandate to mimic media representations so they feel safe in their identity? Is it concrete and other codes, like the Carreño etiquette, that sustain it? Is it encouraged by the need to forget certain relationships as the price of progress, that insistence on “doing for the outside?” What happens to what we learned in our times, those of us who, in secret or not, undertook sexual explorations as children? Were they erased by guilt? Were they the seeds of mistrust and shame in nudity? Were they the seeds of mistrust and shame of being inside oneself? Indeed, aren’t these learnings possibilities to trust in, understand the nudity of bodies as part of respecting oneself and others? These questions emerge in trusted spaces, where the fear to say what one thinks and feels is driven away by the intention of accompaniment. I imagine how many of us there are in all corners of this planet and I am certain these are not new questions, that messages in them are repeated, and that we find ourselves living the answers.
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This journal edition in partnership with Kohl: a Journal for Body and Gender Research, will explore feminist solutions, proposals and realities for transforming our current world, our bodies and our sexualities.
نصدر النسخة هذه من المجلة بالشراكة مع «كحل: مجلة لأبحاث الجسد والجندر»، وسنستكشف عبرها الحلول والاقتراحات وأنواع الواقع النسوية لتغيير عالمنا الحالي وكذلك أجسادنا وجنسانياتنا.
I know you are so close. You can feel it can't you? How things need to shift and you need to centre yourself.
This is a letter to tell you to do it. Choose your healing. Choose to be OK. Better than OK. Choose to be whole, to be happy. To cry tears for yourself and no one else. Choose to shut out the world and tell them that 'you will be back in 5 mins'. Or five days. Or five years.
Or never.
Choose to not take it all on. Choose to take none of it on. Because none of it is yours. It was never yours. They told you since you were born that it was yours. Your family's problems. Your lovers' problems. Your neighbours' problems. The globe's problems. The constant whisper that these problems belong to you. They are yours. Yours to hold, yours to shoulder. Yours to fix.
That was a lie.
A bamboozle
A long con.
A scam.
The problems of the universe are not yours.
The only problems that are yours are your own. Everyone else can take a hike.
Allow yourself to drop everything and sprint off into the jungle. Befriend a daisy clad nymph, start a small library in the roots of a tree. Dance naked and howl at the moonlight. Converse with Oshun at the river bed.
Or simply drink a cup of tea when you need to take a moment to breathe.
Give yourself permission to disappear into the mist and reappear three countries over as a mysterious chocolatier with a sketchy past and penchant for dramatic cloaks and cigars.
Or stop answering work calls on weekends.
Let yourself swim to deserted island with a lover and dress only in the coconut shells from coconut rum that you make and sip at sunset.
Or say no when you don't have the capacity to create space for someone.
The options for holding yourself are endless.
Whatever you do, know the world will always keep spinning. That's the beauty and the pain of it. No matter who or what you choose over yourself and your soul the world will always keep spinning.
Therefore, choose you.
In the morning when that first light hits, choose you. When it’s lunchtime and it’s time to cry on company time, choose you. In the evening, when you are warming up leftovers because you didn’t have time to cook again, choose you. When anxiety wakes you up and existence is silent at 3:45 am.
Choose you.
Because the world will always keep twirling on a tilt and you deserve to have someone always trying to make it right side up for you.
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