Communicating Desire

and Other Embodied Political Praxes

Communicating Desire

Host: We tend to think about communicating desire as something that is limited to the private intimacy of the bedroom and our personal relationships. But can we also think of this kind of communication as a structure, a praxis that informs our work, and how we are, how we do in the world?

Lindiwe
I believe that unfortunately in the past, expressing your sexuality has been limited. You were allowed to express it within the confines of your marriage, which was permitted, there have always been taboo and stigmas attached to expressing it any other way. When it comes to communicating, obviously the fact that certain stigmas are attached to expressing your sexuality or expressing your desire makes it a lot harder to communicate that in the bedroom or intimately with your partner. From my personal experience, I do believe that obviously if I feel more comfortable expressing myself outside of the bedroom on other matters or other topics, it’s easier for me to build that trust, because you understand conflict resolution with that particular person, you understand exactly how to make your communication special towards that particular person. It’s not easy. It’s something that is consistently done throughout whatever your engagement is, whether it’s your relationship or whether it’s casual and just in the moment. But I believe that confidence outside can definitely translate to how you communicate your desire.

Manal
Since childhood, a woman is raised with that, “you’re not allowed to talk about your body, you’re not allowed to talk about your desire,” which puts a heavy responsibility on women, especially girls in their teens when they need to express themselves and talk about these issues. So for me I think this is a big problem. You know, I have been married for more than 25 years, but still, until now, I cannot talk about my desires. I cannot say what I want or what I prefer, because it’s like I’m not allowed to go beyond this line. It’s like haram, despite it being my right. This is the case for all my friends, they just can’t express themselves in the right way.

Louise
Personally, I find that expressing our desires, my desires, however that expression comes in hand, has to do with the other, and the gaze that the other would have on me. So this is also something that we can link to cinema. And the gaze I would have on myself as well: what I think I am as an individual, but also what society expects of me and my sexuality. In the past, I somehow did the analogy between what happens in the bedroom and what happens in the workplace, because there is sometimes this dynamic of power, whether I want it or not. And oftentimes, verbal communication is harder than we think. But when it comes to representation in film, that’s a totally different game. We are very far away from what I guess all of us here would like to see on screen when it comes to just communicating sexual desires inside or outside the bedroom. 

Online and Embodied

Host: We can think about the digital world as embodied: while it might be virtual, it is not less real. And this was made clear in the context of AWID’s feminist realities festival, which took place entirely online. What does it mean then to talk about sexuality, collectively, politically, in online spaces? Do we navigate virtual spaces with our bodies and affects, and in this case, what are the different considerations? What does it do to communication and representation?

Lindiwe
Social media makes you feel community-based. When you express what it is that you want or like, there is someone who’s either going to agree or disagree, but those who do agree make you feel that you belong to a community. So it’s easier to throw it out into the universe, or for others to see, and potentially not get as much judgment. And I say this very loosely because sometimes, depending on what it is that you’re expressing, it either will get you vilified or celebrated. But when it comes to the bedroom, there is an intimacy and almost a vulnerability that is exposing you and different parts of you that is not as easy to give your opinion on. When it comes to expressing your desire, speaking it and saying it and maybe putting a Tweet or a social media post, or even liking and reading other communities that are same-minded is a lot easier than telling your partner, “this is how I want to be pleasured” or “this is how what I want you to do next,” because of the fear of rejection. But not only that, just the vulnerability aspect – allowing yourself to be bare enough to let the other person see into what you are thinking, feeling, and wanting – I think this is where the difference would come in for me personally. I feel it is a lot more community-based on social media, and it’s easier to engage in discourse. Whereas in the bedroom, you don’t want to necessarily kill the moment. But I think that also kind of helps you understand going forward, depending on the relationship with the person, how you would engage thereafter. So I always know that if I try to communicate something and I fail to do so in the moment, I can always try to bring it up outside of that moment and see what the reaction would be so I know how to approach it going forward.

Louise
You know the question in films is, I don’t know if the male gaze is done intentionally or not. Like we don’t really know that. What we know is that the reason why sexuality in general has been so heternormative and focused on penetration and not giving any space for women to actually ask for anything in films, is because most of the people who have been working in this industry and making decisions in terms of, you know, storytelling and editing have been white men. So rape revenge is this very weird film genre that was birthed in the 70s, and half of the story would be that a woman is being raped by one or multiple people, and in the other half, she would get her revenge. So usually she would murder and kill the people who have raped her, and sometimes other people next to them. At the beginning of the birth of this genre and for 30 years at least, those films were written, produced, and directed by men. This is why we also want so much representation. A lot of feminists and pioneers in queer filmmaking also used the act of filming in order to do that and to reclaim their own sexuality. I’m thinking about Barbara Hammer, who’s a feminist and queer pioneer in experimental cinema in the U.S. where she decided to shoot women having sex on 16mm, and by doing so reclaimed a space within the narrative that was exposed in film at that time. And there is also then the question of invisibilization: we know now, because of the internet and sharing knowledge, that women and queer filmmakers have been trying and making films since the beginning of cinema. We only realize it now that we have access to databases and the work of activists and curators and filmmakers.

Resisting Colonization

Host: And this opens up the conversation on the importance of keeping our feminist histories alive. The online worlds have also played a crucial role in documenting protests and resistance. From Sudan to Palestine to Colombia, feminists have taken our screens by storm, challenging the realities of occupation, capitalism, and oppression. So could we speak of communicating desire – the desire for something else – as decolonization?

Manal
Maybe because my village is just 600 residents and the whole village is one family – Tamimi – there are no barriers between men and women. We do everything together. So when we began our non-violent resistance or when we joined the non-violent resistance in Palestine, there was no discussion whether women should participate or not. We took a very important role within the movement here in the village. But when other villages and other places began to join our weekly protests, some men thought that if these women participate or join the protests, they will fight with soldiers so it will be like they’re easy women. There were some men who were not from the village who tried to sexually harass the women. But a strong woman who is able to stand in front of a soldier can also stand against sexual harassment. Sometimes, when other women from other places join our protest, they are shy at first; they don’t want to come closer because there are many men. If you want to join the protest, if you want to be part of the non-violent movement, you have to remove all these restrictions and all these thoughts from your mind. You have to focus on just fighting for your rights. Unfortunately, the Israeli occupation realizes this issue. For example, the first time I was arrested, I wear the hijab so they tried to take it off; they tried to take off my clothes, in front of everybody. There were like 300-400 people and they tried to do it. When they took me to the interrogation, the interrogator said: “we did this because we want to punish other women through you. We know your culture.” So I told him: “I don’t care, I did something that I believe in. Even if you take all my clothes off, everybody knows that Manal is resisting.”

Lindiwe
I think even from a cultural perspective, which is very ironic, if you look at culture in Africa, prior to getting colonized, showing skin wasn’t a problem. Wearing animal skin and/or hides to protect you, that wasn’t an issue and people weren’t as sexualized unless it was within context. But we conditioned ourselves to say, “you should be covered up” and the moment you are not covered up you are exposed, and therefore it will be sexualized. Nudity gets sexualized as opposed to you just being naked; they don’t want a little girl to be seen naked. What kind of society have we conditioned ourselves to be if you’re going to be sexualizing someone who is naked outside of the context of a sexual engagement? But environment definitely plays a big role because your parents and your grannies and your aunts say “no, don’t dress inappropriately,” or “no, that’s too short.” So you hear that at home first, and then the moment you get exposed outside, depending on the environment, whether it’s a Eurocentric or more westernized environment to what you are used to, then you are kind of free to do so. And even then, as much as you are free, there’s still a lot that comes with it in terms of catcalling and people still sexualizing your body. You could be wearing a short skirt, and someone feels they have the right to touch you without your permission. There is so much that is associated with regulating and controlling women’s bodies, and that narrative starts at home. And then you go out into your community and society and the narrative gets perpetuated, and you realize that you get sexualized by society at large too, especially as a person of color.

Resistance as Pleasure

Host: And finally, in what ways can our resistance be more than what we are allowed? Is there a place for pleasure and joy, for us and our communities?

Louise
Finding pleasure as resistance and resistance in pleasure, first for me there is this idea of the guerrilla filmmaking or the action of filming when you’re not supposed to or when someone told you not to, which is the case for a lot of women and queer filmmakers in the world right now. For example, in Lebanon, which is a cinema scene that I know very well, most of the lesbian stories that I’ve seen were shot by students in very short formats with “no production value” as the west would say – meaning with no money, because of the censorship that happens on an institutional level, but also within the family and within the private sphere. I would think that filming whatever, but also filming pleasure and pleasure within lesbian storytelling is an act of resistance in itself. A lot of times, just taking a camera and getting someone to edit and someone to act is extremely hard and requires a lot of political stance.

Lindiwe
I have a rape support group. I’m trying to assist women to reintegrate themselves from a sexual perspective: wanting to be intimate again, wanting to not let their past traumas influence so much how they move forward. It’s not an easy thing, but it’s individual. So I always start with understanding your body. I feel the more you understand and love and are proud of it, the more you are able to allow someone else into that space. I call it sensuality training, where I get them to start seeing themselves as not sexual objects, but as objects of pleasure and desire that can be interchangeable. So you’re worthy of receiving as well as giving. But that’s not only from a psychological point of view; it is physical. When you get out of the shower, you get out of the bath, and you’re putting lotion on your body, look at every part of your body, feel every part of your body, know when there are changes, know your body so well that should you get a new pimple on your knee, you are so aware of it because just a few hours ago it wasn’t there. So things like that where I kind of get people to love themselves from within, so they feel they are worthy of being loved in a safe space, is how I gear them towards claiming their sexuality and their desire.

Manal
You know we began to see women coming from Nablus, from Jerusalem, from Ramallah, even from occupied 48, who have to drive for 3-4 hours just to come to join the protests. After that we tried to go to other places, talk with women, tell them that they don’t have to be shy, that they should just believe in themselves and that there is nothing wrong in what we are doing. You can protect yourself, so where is the wrong in participating or in joining? Once I asked some women, “why are you joining?” And they said, “if the Tamimi women can do it, we can do it also.” To be honest I was very happy to hear this because we were like a model for other women. If I have to stand for my rights, it should be all my rights, not just one or two. We can’t divide rights.

Chers mouvements féministes,

Vous nous avez accueillies à bras ouverts lorsqu’il a été annoncé en 2016 au Forum de l’AWID à Bahia que nous serions toutes deux codirectrices exécutives de l’AWID. Nous pensions alors que tout était possible, nous allions construire une oasis féministe qui nourrirait nos combats collectifs à venir. Nous avons quitté Bahia avec un sens aigu de nos nouvelles responsabilités, nous engageant à vous servir de notre mieux et à diriger l’AWID de la manière la plus efficace et la plus soutenante pour vous.

Il est maintenant temps pour nous de laisser la place à un nouveau leadership !

Plus de cinq ans après le début de cette aventure, nous avons décidé de faire coïncider la fin du cycle stratégique actuel de l’AWID avec l’arrêt de notre codirection. Nous pensons que c’est le moment idéal de quitter nos fonctions et de soutenir la relève. Nous pensons en effet que le leadership féministe transformateur est cyclique.

Nous avons pleinement conscience de l’opportunité qui nous a été donnée de jouer un rôle dans les 40 ans d’histoire de l’AWID, de soutenir et mener l’organisation tout au long du difficile contexte de la pandémie mondiale et des nombreuses crises qui se sont succédé.

Mouvements féministes, nous savons que vous ferez partie de notre prochaine aventure, quelle qu’elle soit. Vous nous enseignez sans relâche la force et la résilience. Nous changeons de fonction, mais nous continuerons collectivement à progresser ensemble.

Comment nous avons avancé

Nous avons des souvenirs très clairs de ceux d’entre vous en Indonésie, en Malaisie, au Népal, en Thaïlande, en Taiwan et ailleurs encore, avec qui nous avons co-créé le Forum de l’AWID, dans la générosité et la spontanéité. Sans aucun doute, notre plus grand regret de ces cinq dernières années est de n’avoir pas pu vous offrir un autre Forum en présentiel.

Dès que la difficile (quoique nécessaire) décision d’annuler le forum de l’AWID a été prise, nous nous sommes centrées sur les questions existentielles avec lesquelles de si nombreuses organisations se débattaient : comment transformer nos manières de travailler pour continuer à être pertinentes, comment prendre en compte la fatigue, la maladie et le deuil qui nous touchent toutes et tous de diverses manières ? Comment construire des relations porteuses de sens, lorsque l’on doit se cantonner aux interactions en ligne ? Il n’y a toujours pas de réponses évidentes à ces questions mais, mouvements féministes, vous avez ouvert la voie.

Nous étions si fières de voir la manière dont les féministes prenaient les rênes d’initiatives visant à atténuer les effets de la COVID-19 sur nos communautés. Les féministes sont les intervenant·es de première ligne dans les crises et nous continuerons à réclamer la reconnaissance et des ressources pour ce travail. Vous avez souvent répondu avec enthousiasme à nos mobilisations, participant de manières toujours plus géniales à notre campagne pour un Sauvetage féministe et ensuite au Festival Crear Résister Transform. Vous vous êtes spontanément jointes à nos actions de plaidoyer, lors d’interventions dans les espaces les droits humains, auprès de responsables des politiques ou de bailleurs de fonds.

Nous voulons témoigner à l’équipe actuelle, et précédente, de l’AWID (tant le personnel que les membres du CA), avec qui nous avons eu l’honneur de travailler au cours de ces années, tout notre amour et notre respect. Nous avons appris de chacun·e d’entre vous et sommes profondément reconnaissantes de toutes vos contributions à l’AWID au fil des ans.

Nous avons été les toutes premières codirectrices exécutives de l’AWID. Nous avons beaucoup appris des multiples traditions activistes et communautaires de leadership collectif et des organisations féministes qui l’avaient fait avant nous. Nous savons que nous n’aurions pas pu faire ce travail sans l’autre. Nous avons pu nous appuyer sur les forces l’une de l’autre et nous nous sommes soutenues mutuellement pour faire le meilleur travail possible.

Et maintenant

Nous sommes arrivées à cette fonction ensemble, et repartons ensemble, même si nous décalons nos dates de départ. Nous voulons toutes les deux assurer une transition aussi douce que possible et une arrivée maîtrisée de la nouvelle direction.

Mouvements féministes, vous êtes entre de bonnes mains avec l’équipe de l’AWID. Elle sait ce qu’elle fait. Et nous sommes fières de quitter l’organisation alors qu’elle est si forte et si résiliente. Nous espérons voir bon nombre d’entre vous au Forum de l’AWID en 2024 – vous nous reconnaîtrez facilement, nous serons les deux personnes totalement relax dans l’assemblée !

Nous vous envoyons de l’amour et de la reconnaissance pour tout ce que vous avez fait avec et pour nous. L’impact que vous avez dans nos vies s’étend sur bien plus que les cinq dernières années et continuera, sans aucun doute, bien au-delà.

Cindy et Hakima

Dear Feminist Movements,

On behalf of the AWID Board of Directors, I am proud to introduce AWID’s next Co-Executive Directors: Faye Macheke and Inna Michaeli!  

Faye Macheke is a passionate Pan-African feminist, active in movements for women's rights, racial justice, migrant and labor rights, and environmental justice.  Her activism builds on the legacy of the struggle against apartheid in South Africa and the aftermath of the apartheid era in Zimbabwe. In 2019, Faye joined AWID as the Director of Finance, Operations and Development. She brings extensive experience in feminist leadership, strategy, and all aspects of organisational development. Faye is a committed Board Member of UAF-Africa and other women's rights organizations. She is based in Cape Town, South Africa.

Inna Michaeli is a feminist lesbian queer activist and sociologist with many years of deep engagement in feminist and LGBTQI+ struggles, political education and organizing by and for migrant women, and Palestine liberation and solidarity. Inna joined AWID in 2016 and served in different roles, most recently as the Director of Programs. She brings extensive experience in research and knowledge building, policy advocacy and organizational development. Inna serves on the Board of the Jewish Voice for Peace - Germany. She is based in Berlin, Germany.

This decision is the result of a rigorous process with full participation of the Board and the staff of AWID. The Board recognised and honoured the skills and talents of AWID staff by opening an internal hiring search.  As a result, we had two brilliant candidates, who embody the integrity, ethic of care, and feminist intersectional values that drive AWID’s work, apply together as a team. Faye and Inna brought forward a brave and exciting vision to meet the challenges of this moment: building a global feminist community, resisting and disrupting systems of oppression, and supporting feminist movements to thrive.
 
As AWID celebrates 40 years we are excited for Inna and Faye to co-lead AWID into our next strategy and a new phase of evolving, pushing boundaries, and supporting feminist movements worldwide. 
 
Appointing and supporting AWID’s Co-Executive Directors to lead the organisation is a fiduciary responsibility we take seriously as a Board. How we engage those processes is also a reflection of AWID’s brilliant and diverse membership, which elects AWID’s Board.
 
As we say good-bye to Cindy and Hakima, we, the Board, unanimously and enthusiastically welcome Faye and Inna as our next Co-EDs as of September 5, 2022. Stay tuned for more updates about our leadership transition in the months ahead.

Most of all, thank you for your ongoing support!

In feminist solidarity and love,
Margo Okazawa-Rey
President, AWID Board

Mariam Mekiwi est une cinéaste et photographe originaire d’Alexandrie qui vit et travaille à Berlin.

Mi querida colectiva feminista:

La integro desde que tengo uso de razón. De jovencita, no sabía que existía una palabra — «feminista»  — para nosotrxs, quienes aspiramos a superar y desmantelar el patriarcado; quienes buscamos refugio en los brazos de la inclusión y la interseccionalidad; quienes tratamos a las personas como iguales independientemente de su género, raza, sexualidad, religión y etnia; quienes estamos continuamente aprendiendo a obrar mejor, a ser mejores y a usar nuestros privilegios para que otras personas mejoren. 

Cuando tenía 14 años, mi profesor de francés de la escuela secundaria, un hombre de 1,80 metros de altura y 30 años de edad, agredió a una alumna de mi clase delante de todxs nosotrxs. La alumna, que era amiga mía desde la infancia, y varias chicas más fuimos a la dirección para denunciarlo, madres y padres se involucraron y toda la clase, treinta alumnxs, expresó su apoyo a la chica. Pero todos nuestros intentos para que el profesor rindiera cuentas por lo que había hecho fracasaron: la administración ocultóó la denunciaa y el profesor nunca fue despedido ni perseguido. Mis compañeras y yo estábamos indignadas, así que hicimos lo que toda joven feminista furiosa haría: LE TIRAMOS HUEVOS A SU AUTO. Si bien los huevos se lavaron con facilidad, costó más sacar la pintura que usamos para escribir las palabras «Cerdo» y «Khamaj» (basura). Nunca olvidaré cómo nos hizo sentir eso: liberadas, enfurecidas, felices, muy unidas y con poder. La misma emoción se repite en todos los ámbitos feministas en los que he estado desde entonces. La feminista adolescente que hay en mí creció y participó en Women Deliver, AWID, Unootha, facilitó talleres feministas en la universidad, e incluso fue perseguida por su filiación feminista a los 19 años, pero esa es otra historia para otra carta. 

Los movimientos y espacios feministas me brindan seguridad y empoderamiento. Son las madres que hubiéramos deseado tener y los vínculos que necesitábamos para conectarnos y organizarnos, a pesar de nuestras diferencias, contra un enemigo común, el patriarcado, que nos ha estado perjudicando a todxs. Con ustedes aprendí a ser resiliente y a reunir mis fuerzas y habilidades para estimular a otras personas, para sacar a la luz la situación de las personas marginadas, y dar voz a quienes no la tienen.

Lo que más me gusta de ustedes, movimientos feministas, es que a veces hacen mal las cosas, desprecian y también marginan, tienen prejuicios como cualquier otro movimiento, pero lo que los diferencia es que siempre se esfuerzan por ser mejores. La rendición de cuentas no es algo a lo que le teman, y son un colectivo en constante cambio que refleja cómo el altruismo y la filantropía que se proponen lograr la equidad de género también cambian con el paso del tiempo. 

Que crezcan siempre, que obren mejor, que siempre se enfurezcan, que siempre rujan, que siempre amen, que siempre hablen distintas lenguas y que siempre sientan su poder. 

Amor, luz y rabia, 
Lina

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Dearest Beloved Feminist Movements,

Hello again, and again, and again. I have known and loved you my entire adult life, since I first met you meaningfully, after graduating from university. I’d seen you one time before then. That was you appearing as Betty Friedan on a local TV talk show in the US Midwest, in the late-1960s. At the time, Mrs. Wells, my other mother, and I commented on what wild, far-fetched ideas this woman was trying to convince us about. Decade after decade since then I have fallen more deeply in love with you, Beloved, and understand and witness your political and theoretical brilliance, ethical and moral authority, creativity, joy, and love, above all. Nearly 60 years later, I know we are partners forever.

The early years of our acquaintanceship was ok. I was quite self-involved--figuring racial, gender, and sexual identity; getting clear on my core politics, values, and ethics; completing my formal education--and you provided numerous settings, intellectual drop-in centers, and comforting holding environments where and through which I was able to craft the young-adult building blocks of the feminist and human being whom I would become.

The predominantly white women’s movement of Cambridge and Boston, including Daughters of Bilitis, was my starting place. That suited me at the time but soon realized I desired something more. Poof! Like magic (serendipity), I connected with a small group of radical, anti-imperialist, Black, socialist lesbian women and we soon became the Combahee River Collective. 

That early Combahee experience, combined with critical life lessons and particular African-American/Korean immigrant racial politics of early-1990s in the US, prepared me for the journey that has led me to identify and work as a transnational feminist to address militarism and to dedicate myself to imagining other worlds where all living beings will thrive.

The next two critical women’s-movement moments were decades after Combahee years but deeply linked. First was meeting and being invited into the Korean feminist movement organizing against US military bases and supporting the “kijichon women” the Korean women whose lives, including for some, their mixed-race children, revolved around servicing US military personnel in numerous ways in villages and towns adjacent to the bases. Korean Beloved Feminists, especially Kim Yon-Ja and Ahn Il-Soon, the first sisters I met and traveled with, made me see and understand the critical importance of nation as an analytical and organizing principle. The “capstone” was living, working in occupied Palestine. The late Maha Abu-Dayyeh introduced me to the Palestinian women’s movement, with a profound comment, “you can leave Palestine but Palestine will never leave you.” So true. And, all my work and experiences across many borders brought me to AWID--my second home.

As you know, Beloved, being with you has not been easy or simple. Indeed, you are demanding, consistently riddled with contradictions, and sometimes even hurtful. Nonetheless, you continue to grow and develop, as you are supporting my political, emotional, and spiritual growth and development.  I guess we are growing each other--a very profound process to which I will dedicate the rest of my time in my current form.

The through-line of being with you all these decades is this: 

So much love, Feminist Movements!

Your Margo
AKA DJ MOR Love and Joy
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El cuerpo es una entidad poderosa. Por ser mujeres, nuestros cuerpos son controlados, oprimidos y vigilados desde que estamos en el útero. Nuestro aspecto, la forma en que nos movemos, nos vestimos, caminamos, hablamos, gesticulamos, reímos. A menudo me he preguntado qué es lo que genera los temores patriarcales respecto del poder de los cuerpos femeninos.

En el lugar de donde provengo, se murmuraba sobre el trabajo sexual y lxs trabajadorxs sexuales con desprecio, asco, fascinación, lástima y condena, todo en simultáneo.

Descubrí el trabajo sexual y a lxs trabajadorxs sexuales cuando tenía 22 años. En conversaciones sencillas, sentadxs en círculo, charlando mientras tomábamos café y té, explorábamos nuestras vidas, experiencias, pensamientos y sentimientos.

Para lxs trabajadorxs sexuales, el trabajo sexual era la opción más conveniente de todas, para pagar las cuentas, para sostener a la familia, para tener un horario laboral más flexible, para tener sexo. Así elegí mi trabajo, como el más conveniente, para pagar las cuentas, para sostener a la familia, para tener un horario laboral más flexible.

Estas personas, mujeres y hombres, me enseñaron que yo tomaba mis propias decisiones sobre mi cuerpo: dónde focalizo su vida y su energía, si lo uso para el placer o para el dolor, si lo comercializo o lo ofrezco en forma gratuita, y cómo quiero sentirme en relación con mi cuerpo. Esta conciencia fue tan excitante como empoderadora.

Crear | Résister | Transform: un festival para movimientos feministas – 2021… ustedes me acompañaron a lo largo de una serie de momentos que cambiaron mi vida (¡!¡!¡!)

Los llamamos «eventos», pero en verdad, para mí, sus espacios de aprendizaje feministas son el lugar adonde llevo un poco de lo que tengo adentro, y de donde me llevo un poco de lo que dicen sus disertantes y algo de las discusiones que penetran más profundamente en nuestra comprensión.

Compartir... Participar... Sumergirse...
en la fortaleza, en la vulnerabilidad, en el placer.

Simplemente siendo la feminista transformadora que soy, sin pretensiones, sin recelos...

Apreciando a la feminista transformadora que siempre he sido, sin siquiera conocer la palabra ni reconocerla de esa manera o en esos términos...

Encontrar un hogar para la feminista ferozmente transformadora que vive dentro de mí...

A pesar de la ira, la rabia y la frustración por no ser tratada como una igual y ser tratada como alguien «menos _ que».

No siempre me consideré feminista ni me reconocí a mí misma dentro del movimiento feminista o del discurso feminista. De verdad, aprecio que las puertas me fueran abiertas, que se me acercaran sillas para sentarme, el reconocimiento como mujer, el reconocimiento de mi feminidad.

Algunas veces desestimé al patriarcado con fastidio, otras veces respondí con frustración y enojo, pero no lo enfrenté... no notaba su toxicidad siniestra e insidiosa... era lo suficientemente privilegiada como para poder trabajar a través de él, para sobrevivir a él, para superarlo, para destacarme a pesar de él... no lo cuestionaba lo suficiente, no lo desafiaba lo suficiente, no sobrepasaba mis límites lo suficiente... no hacía lo suficiente...

…conectándome con trabajadorxs sexuales, explorando la sexualidad y las mujeres para tener paz y seguridad…

Hasta que fui plenamente consciente y comprendí las implicancias tanto del privilegio como de la opresión que eran interseccionales.
Hasta que me di cuenta de lo que significaba pelear por la justicia de género y no simplemente por la «igualdad para todxs».

Ya no más practicante y facilitadora: soy una practicante y facilitadora feminista transformadora.

Ser feminista significa que voy a actuar

• –a través de mis actividades cotidianas: la forma en que vivo, el trabajo que hago, los procesos que se me invita a liderar, los talleres y las conferencias que se me invita a dar–
• para resistir contra la toxicidad del patriarcado, para desmantelar las estructuras y los sistemas patriarcales,
• para trabajar con vistas a descolonizar valores, creencias, pensamientos, y destruir los mitos de las normas y las expectativas de género,
• para enfrentar los desequilibrios de poder impuestos por las creencias y la socialización patriarcales,
• para fomentar relaciones construidas sobre la base de la inclusión, el holismo, la igualdad, el cuidado, la reciprocidad, la responsabilidad y la justicia,
• para ponerme de pie y actuar en solidaridad en las primeras líneas de la lucha por la inclusión, la equidad y la justicia.

Zambulléndome en un futuro incierto, frágil, complejo (y posiblemente bastante violento)…

• quiero descubrirme a mí misma y ser yo misma de forma más íntima, más auténtica y más profunda a través del movimiento...
• quiero involucrarme más activamente y estar más interconectada a través de esta relación amorosa.

Estoy profundamente agradecida por tenerlxs a ustedes y les prometo continuar siendo implacable al enfrentar y reparar los temas problemáticos relacionados con el género, la raza, la etnia, la clase social, la orientación sexual y la capacidad, y seguir estando presente y siendo fiel a la lucha por la inclusión, la equidad y la justicia.
 
- Khin Khin

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عندما يصبح عملنا المتجسّد مادةً ربحية في أيدي الأنظمة التي نسعى إلى إزالتها فلا عجب أنّ جنسانيّاتنا وملذّاتنا توضَع جانباً من جديد، لا سيّما أنّها ليست مُربِحة بما فيه الكفاية. لقد تساءلنا، في مواقف عدّة خلال إنتاج هذا العدد، ما الذي سيحدث إذا رفضنا مراعاة خدمات الرأسمالية الأساسية؟ لكن هل نجرؤ على هذا التساؤل وقد أنهكنا العالم؟ ربما يتمّ تجاهل جنسانيّاتنا بهذه السهولة لأنها لا تُعتَبَر أشكالاً من أشكال الرعاية. ربما ما نحتاجه هو أن نعيد تصوّر الملذّة كشكلٍ من أشكال الرعاية الجذرية، تكون أيضاً مناهضة للرأسمالية وللمؤسساتية.

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